Loneliness questionnaire with Mr. Korchagina. Diagnostic questionnaire “Loneliness” C
Scales: diffuse, alienating, dissociated loneliness.
Purpose of the test
Definitions and depths of the experience of loneliness, and its type.
Test instructions
You are offered 30 questions or statements and 2 possible answers to them. Choose the one that most matches your idea of yourself.
Test
No. Questions yes no
1 Do you think that no one really knows you?
2 Have you been experiencing a lack of friendly communication lately?
3 Do you think that your loved ones and friends are not very worried about you?
4 Do you have the idea that no one really needs you? (they can easily cope without you)?
5 Are you afraid of seeming intrusive with your revelations?
6 Does it seem to you that your death will not bring much suffering to your loved ones and friends?
7 Are there people in your life with whom you feel like you belong?
8 Does it happen that you experience opposite feelings towards the same person?
9 Are your feelings sometimes extreme?
10 Do you ever have the feeling that you are “not of this world”, that everything is different for you than for others?
11 Do you strive more for your friends than they do for you?
12 Do you think that you give more to people than you receive from them?
13 Do you have the mental strength to truly deeply empathize with another person?
14 Do you find ways to fully express your empathy for the sufferer?
15 Are you overwhelmed by feelings (sadness, regret, pain, repentance) about something that is irretrievably gone?
16 Do you notice that people for some reason avoid you?
17 Is it difficult for you to forgive yourself for weakness, mistake, oversight?
18 Would you like to change yourself somehow?
19 Do you think it is necessary to change something in your life?
20 Do you feel a sufficient reserve of strength to independently change your life for the better?
21 Do you feel overwhelmed by superficial social contacts?
22 Do you feel that other people understand that you are different from them and, in general, an “alien”?
23 Does your mood, state depend on the mood, state, behavior of other people?
24 Do you like being alone with yourself?
25 When you feel that someone doesn’t like you, do you strive to change their opinion about yourself?
26 Do you strive to ensure that everyone always understands you correctly?
27 Do you think that you know your habits, characteristics, inclinations well?
28 Does it ever happen that you surprise yourself with an unexpected action (reaction, word)?
29 Does it happen that you cannot establish relationships that suit you?
30 Have you ever felt completely accepted and understood?
Processing and interpretation of test results
State of loneliness (without defining the type):
"+" 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 10, 11, 12, 15, 16, 29, 22
"-" 13, 14,30,24
Diffuse Alienating Dissociated
«+» «-» «+» «—» «+» «—»
4, 2, 1, 11, 1, 17,
6, 11, 2, 13, 4, 20,
11, 24, 5, 14, 7, 27,
12, 27 16, 23, 8, 30
13, 22, 25, 9,
14, 24, 26, 10,
21, 27, 30 12,
23, 29 15,
25, 19,
26 28
People experiencing diffuse loneliness are distinguished by suspicion in interpersonal relationships and a combination of contradictory personal and behavioral characteristics: resistance and adaptation in conflicts; presence of all levels of empathy; excitability, anxiety and emotive character, communicative orientation. In many ways, this contradiction is explained by a person’s identification with different objects (people), who naturally have different psychological characteristics. Let us recall that in a state of acute experience of diffuse loneliness, a person strives for other people, hoping to find in communication with them confirmation of his own existence, his significance. This fails because a person does not communicate in the proper sense, does not share his own, does not exchange, but only tries on the guise of another, that is, he identifies with him, becoming, as it were, a living mirror. Such people react very sharply to stress, choosing a strategy of seeking sympathy and support. Intuitively sensing your true, ek
existential loneliness, a person experiences enormous fear. He tries to “escape” from this horror to people and chooses the strategy of interaction with them that, in his opinion, will provide him with at least temporary acceptance - identification. He demonstrates absolute agreement with the opinions, principles, morals, and interests of the person with whom he communicates. In essence, a person begins to live from the mental resources of the object of identification, that is, to exist at the expense of another. Striving for true human communication, he acts in such a way that he does not leave himself the slightest chance to fulfill this desire. The consequence of this, of course, is the most severe experience of loneliness, filled with fear, disappointment and a feeling of the meaninglessness of one’s existence. With successful treatment of this condition, the personal characteristics of clients change towards harmonization and consistency.
Alienating loneliness manifests itself in excitability, anxiety, cyclothymic character, low empathy, confrontation in conflicts, pronounced inability to cooperate, suspicion and dependence in interpersonal relationships. Let us briefly repeat the features of this state of loneliness.
The next type of loneliness - dissociated - is the most complex state, both in terms of experiences, origin and manifestations. Its genesis is determined by pronounced processes of identification and alienation and their abrupt change in relation to even the same people. First, a person identifies himself with another, accepting his way of life and following him, limitlessly trusting “as himself.” It is this “as oneself” that forms the basis for understanding the psychological genesis of this state. After complete identification, there follows a sharp alienation from the same object, which reflects a person’s true attitude towards himself. Some aspects of one’s personality are accepted by a person, others are categorically rejected. As soon as the projection of these rejected qualities is reflected in the object of identification, the latter is immediately rejected entirely, that is, a sharp and unconditional alienation occurs. The feeling of loneliness is acute, clear, conscious, painful.
Dissociated loneliness is expressed in anxiety, excitability and demonstrativeness of character, confrontation in conflicts, personal orientation, a combination of high and low empathy (in the absence of an average level), selfishness and subordination in interpersonal relationships, which, of course, are opposite tendencies .
A subjectively positive type of loneliness - controlled loneliness, or solitude, is a variant of the experience of psychological separateness, one’s own individuality, which is personally determined by the optimal ratio of the results of the processes of identification and separation. This dynamic balance can be considered as one of the manifestations of the psychological stability of the individual relative to the influences of society.
Sources
Korchagina S.G. Psychology of loneliness: tutorial. – M.: Moscow Psychological and Social Institute, 2008.Questionnaire to determine the type of loneliness S.G. Korchagina
Processing of results and interpretation
This questionnaire is quite simple to process. The following points are assigned to the subject’s answers: always – 4, often – 3, sometimes – 2, never – 1.
The key to measuring loneliness is:
12-16 points – the person is not currently experiencing loneliness;
17-27 points – shallow experience of possible loneliness;
28-38 – deep experience of actual loneliness;
39-48 – a very deep experience of loneliness, immersion in this state.
The test is aimed at determining both the depth of the experience of loneliness and its type (diffuse, alienating, dissociated).
Instructions. You are offered 30 questions or statements and two options for answering them (yes or no), choose the one that most matches your self-image.
1. Do you think that no one really knows you?
2. Have you been experiencing a lack of friendly communication lately?
3. Do you think that your loved ones and friends are not very worried about you?
4. Do you have the idea that no one really needs you? (they can easily cope without you)?
5. Are you afraid of seeming intrusive with your revelations?
6. Does it seem to you that your death will not bring much suffering to your loved ones and friends?
7. Are there people in your life with whom you feel like you belong?
8. Does it happen that you experience opposite feelings towards the same person?
9. Are your feelings sometimes extreme?
10. Do you ever have the feeling that you are “not of this world”, that everything is different for you than for others?
11. Do you strive more for your friends than they do for you?
12. Do you think that you give more to people than you receive from them?
13. Do you have the mental strength to truly deeply empathize with another person?
14. Do you find ways to fully express your empathy for the sufferer?
15. Are you overwhelmed by feelings (sadness, regret, pain, remorse) about something that is irretrievably gone?
16. Do you notice that people for some reason avoid you?
17. Is it difficult for you to forgive yourself for weakness, mistake, or oversight?
18. Would you like to change yourself somehow?
19. Do you think it is necessary to change something in your life?
20. Do you feel a sufficient reserve of strength to independently change your life for the better?
21. Do you feel overwhelmed by superficial social contacts?
22. Do you feel that other people understand that you are different from them and, in general, an “alien”?
23. Does your mood, state depend on the mood, state, behavior of other people?
24. Do you like being alone with yourself?
25. When you feel that someone doesn’t like you, do you strive to change their opinion about yourself?
26. Do you strive to ensure that everyone always understands you correctly?
27. Do you think that you know your habits, characteristics, and inclinations well?
28. Does it ever happen that you surprise yourself with an unexpected action (reaction, word)?
29. Does it happen that you cannot establish relationships that suit you?
30. Have you ever felt completely accepted and understood?
Purpose of the test: diagnostics of the depth of the experience of loneliness.Test instructions: you are offered 12 questions and 4 possible answers to them. Choose the one that best matches your self-image.
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Always |
often |
Sometimes |
never |
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Does it happen that you do not find understanding with your loved ones (friends)? | ||||
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Do you have the idea that no one really needs you? | ||||
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3 |
Do you ever have a feeling of being abandoned, abandoned in the world? | ||||
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Do you lack friendly communication? | ||||
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5 |
Do you ever have a feeling of acute longing for something irretrievably gone, lost forever? | ||||
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Do you feel overwhelmed by superficial social contacts that do not provide the opportunity for true human interaction? | ||||
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7 |
Do you have a feeling of your own dependence on other people? | ||||
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8 |
Are you now capable of truly empathizing with another person’s grief? | ||||
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9 |
Can you express your empathy, understanding, sympathy to a person? | ||||
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10 |
Does it happen that the success or luck of another person makes you feel disadvantaged, regretful about your own failures? | ||||
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Do you demonstrate your independence in solving difficult life situations? | ||||
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Do you feel you have a sufficient reserve of capabilities to independently solve life’s problems? | ||||
This questionnaire is quite simple to process. The following points are assigned to the subject’s answers: always – 4, often – 3, sometimes – 2, never – 1.
The key to measuring loneliness is:
12-16 points – the person is not experiencing loneliness now;
17-27 points – shallow experience of possible loneliness;
28-38 – deep experience of actual loneliness;
39-48 – a very deep experience of loneliness, immersion in this state.
Questionnaire to determine the type of loneliness (S.G. Korchagina)
Scales: diffuse, alienating, dissociated loneliness.
Purpose of the test: definitions and depths of the experience of loneliness, and its type. Test instructions
You are offered 30 questions or statements and 2 possible answers to them (yes or no), choose the one that most matches your self-image.
Test
Do you think that no one really knows you?
Have you been experiencing a lack of friendly communication lately?
Do you think that your loved ones and friends are not very worried about you?
Do you have the idea that no one really needs you? (they can easily cope without you)?
Are you afraid of seeming intrusive with your revelations?
Do you think that your death will not bring much suffering to your loved ones and friends?
Are there people in your life with whom you feel like you belong?
Does it ever happen that you experience opposite feelings towards the same person?
Are your feelings sometimes extreme?
Do you ever have the feeling that you are “not of this world”, that everything is different for you than for others?
Do you strive more for your friends than they do for you?
Do you think that you give more to people than you receive from them?
Do you have the mental strength to truly deeply empathize with another person?
Do you find ways to fully express your empathy for the sufferer?
Are you overwhelmed by feelings (sadness, regret, pain, remorse) about something that is irretrievably gone?
Do you notice that people for some reason avoid you?
Is it difficult for you to forgive yourself for weakness, mistake, oversight?
Would you like to change yourself somehow?
Do you think it is necessary to change something in your life?
Do you feel a sufficient reserve of strength to independently change your life for the better?
Do you feel overwhelmed by superficial social contacts?
Do you feel that other people understand that you are different from them and, in general, an “alien”?
Does your mood, condition depend on the mood, condition, behavior of other people?
Do you like being alone with yourself?
When you feel that someone doesn’t like you, do you strive to change their opinion about yourself?
Do you strive to ensure that everyone always understands you correctly?
Do you think that you know your habits, characteristics, inclinations well?
Does it ever happen that you surprise yourself with an unexpected action (reaction, word)?
Does it happen that you cannot establish relationships that suit you?
Have you ever felt completely accepted and understood?
Processing and interpretation of test results
State of loneliness (without defining the type):
"+" 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 10, 11, 12, 15, 16, 29, 22
“–” 13, 14, 30, 24
People experiencing diffuse loneliness are characterized by suspicion in interpersonal relationships and a combination of contradictory personal and behavioral characteristics: resistance and adaptation in conflicts; presence of all levels of empathy; excitability, anxiety and emotive character, communicative orientation. In many ways, this contradiction is explained by a person’s identification with different objects (people), who naturally have different psychological characteristics. Let us recall that in a state of acute experience of diffuse loneliness, a person strives for other people, hoping to find in communication with them confirmation of his own existence, his significance. This fails because a person does not communicate in the proper sense, does not share his own, does not exchange, but only tries on the guise of another, that is, he identifies with him, becoming, as it were, a living mirror. Such people react very sharply to stress, choosing a strategy of seeking sympathy and support. Intuitively anticipating his true, existential loneliness, a person experiences colossal fear. He tries to “escape” from this horror to people and chooses the strategy of interaction with them that, in his opinion, will provide him with at least temporary acceptance - identification. He demonstrates absolute agreement with the opinions, principles, morals, and interests of the person with whom he communicates. In essence, a person begins to live from the mental resources of the object of identification, that is, to exist at the expense of another. Striving for true human communication, he acts in such a way that he does not leave himself the slightest chance to fulfill this desire. The consequence of this, of course, is the most severe experience of loneliness, filled with fear, disappointment and a feeling of the meaninglessness of one’s existence. With successful treatment of this condition, the personal characteristics of clients change towards harmonization and consistency.
Alienating loneliness manifests itself in excitability, anxiety, cyclothymic character, low empathy, confrontation in conflicts, severe inability to cooperate, suspicion and dependence in interpersonal relationships. Let us briefly repeat the features of this state of loneliness.
The next type of loneliness – dissociated – is the most complex state, both in terms of experiences, origin and manifestations. Its genesis is determined by pronounced processes of identification and alienation and their abrupt change in relation to even the same people. First, a person identifies himself with another, accepting his way of life and following it, trusting infinitely “as in himself.” It is this “as oneself” that forms the basis for understanding the psychological genesis of this state. After complete identification, there follows a sharp alienation from the same object, which reflects a person’s true attitude towards himself. Some aspects of one’s personality are accepted by a person, others are categorically rejected. As soon as the projection of these rejected qualities is reflected in the object of identification, the latter is immediately rejected entirely, that is, a sharp and unconditional alienation occurs. The feeling of loneliness is acute, clear, conscious, painful.
Dissociated loneliness is expressed in anxiety, excitability and demonstrative character, confrontation in conflicts, personal orientation, a combination of high and low empathy (in the absence of an average level), selfishness and subordination in interpersonal relationships, which, of course, are opposite tendencies.
A subjectively positive type of loneliness - controlled loneliness, or solitude, is a variant of the experience of psychological separateness, one’s own individuality, which is personally determined by the optimal ratio of the results of the processes of identification and isolation. This dynamic balance can be considered as one of the manifestations of the psychological stability of the individual relative to the influences of society.
Korchagina S.G. Psychology of loneliness: a textbook. – M.: Moscow Psychological and Social Institute, 2008.
Scales:diffuse, alienating, dissociated loneliness.PURPOSE OF THE TEST/ Definitions and depths of the experience of loneliness, and its type.
Test instructions/You are offered 30 questions or statements and 2 possible answers to them. Choose the one that most matches your idea of yourself.
TEST
№ Questions yes no1 Do you think that no one really knows you?
2 Have you been experiencing a lack of friendly communication lately?
3 Do you think that your loved ones and friends are not very worried about you?
4 Do you have the idea that no one really needs you? (they can easily cope without you)?
5 Are you afraid of seeming intrusive with your revelations?
6 Does it seem to you that your death will not bring much suffering to your loved ones and friends?
7 Are there people in your life with whom you feel like you belong?
8 Does it happen that you experience opposite feelings towards the same person?
9 Are your feelings sometimes extreme?
10 Do you ever have the feeling that you are “not of this world”, that everything is different for you than for others?
11 Do you strive more for your friends than they do for you?
12 Do you think that you give more to people than you receive from them?
13 Do you have the mental strength to truly deeply empathize with another person?
14 Do you find ways to fully express your empathy for the sufferer?
15 Are you overwhelmed by feelings (sadness, regret, pain, repentance) about something that is irretrievably gone?
16 Do you notice that people for some reason avoid you?
17 Is it difficult for you to forgive yourself for weakness, mistake, oversight?
18 Would you like to change yourself somehow?
19 Do you think it is necessary to change something in your life?
20 Do you feel a sufficient reserve of strength to independently change your life for the better?
21 Do you feel overwhelmed by superficial social contacts?
22 Do you feel that other people understand that you are different from them and, in general, an “alien”?
23 Does your mood, state depend on the mood, state, behavior of other people?
24 Do you like being alone with yourself?
25 When you feel that someone doesn’t like you, do you strive to change their opinion about yourself?
26 Do you strive to ensure that everyone always understands you correctly?
27 Do you think that you know your habits, characteristics, inclinations well?
28 Does it ever happen that you surprise yourself with an unexpected action (reaction, word)?
29 Does it happen that you cannot establish relationships that suit you?
30 Have you ever felt completely accepted and understood?
Loneliness test. Method of subjective feeling of loneliness by D. Russell and M. Ferguson
Description: This diagnostic test-questionnaire is designed to determine the level of loneliness, how lonely a person feels.Quiz: How lonely are you? Method of subjective feeling of loneliness by D. Russell and M. Ferguson:
Instructions. You are presented with a series of statements. Consider each one sequentially and evaluate in terms of the frequency of their occurrence in relation to your life using four answer options: “often,” “sometimes,” “rarely,” “never.” Mark the selected option with a “+” sign.
Text of the questionnaire (questions).
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| Statements | Often | Sometimes | Rarely | Never |
| 1 | I'm unhappy doing so many things alone | ||||
| 2 | I have no one to talk to | ||||
| 3 | I can't bear to be so lonely | ||||
| 4 | I miss communication | ||||
| 5 | I feel like no one understands me | ||||
| 6 | I find myself waiting for people to call, write to me | ||||
| 7 | There's no one I can turn to | ||||
| 8 | I'm not close to anyone anymore | ||||
| 9 | Those around me do not share my interests and ideas | ||||
| 10 | I feel abandoned | ||||
| 11 | I am unable to open up and communicate with those around me | ||||
| 12 | I feel completely alone | ||||
| 13 | My social relationships and connections are superficial | ||||
| 14 | I'm dying for company | ||||
| 15 | Nobody really knows me well | ||||
| 16 | I feel isolated from others | ||||
| 17 | I'm miserable being such an outcast | ||||
| 18 | I have trouble making friends | ||||
| 19 | I feel excluded and isolated by others | ||||
| 20 | People around me, but not with me |
Methodology for studying self-attitude
S.R. Panteleev (MIS)
The technique is intended to identify the structure of a person’s self-attitude, as well as the severity of individual components of self-attitude: closedness, self-confidence, self-leadership, reflected self-attitude, self-worth, self-attachment, internal conflict and self-blame. Instructions.You are offered a list of judgments characterizing a person’s attitude towards himself, towards his actions and actions. Read each statement carefully. If you agree with the content of the judgment, then in the answer form, next to the serial number of the judgment, put “+”; if you do not agree, then “-”. Work quickly and carefully, do not miss a single judgment. It is possible that some judgments will seem overly personal to you, affecting intimate aspects of your personality. Try to determine their suitability for yourself as sincerely as possible. Your answers will not be shown to anyone.
Questionnaire
My words quite rarely diverge from my deeds.
To a casual person, I will most likely seem like a pleasant person.
I always treat other people's problems with the same understanding as I approach my own.
I often have the feeling that what I talk to myself about in my mind is unpleasant to me.
I think that all my friends treat me with sympathy.
The most sensible thing a person can do in his life is not to resist his own destiny.
I have enough ability and energy to bring my plans to life.
If I split into two, then it would be quite interesting for me to communicate with my double.
I am not capable of causing mental pain to the people who are most loved and dear to me.
I believe that it is not a sin to feel sorry for yourself sometimes.
Having made some mistake, I often cannot understand how it could have occurred to me that something good could have come out of my plan.
Most often I approve of my plans and actions.
There is probably something in my personality that can cause acute hostility in others.
When I try to evaluate myself, I first see my shortcomings.
I can’t be interesting to my loved one for a long time.
You could say that I value myself quite highly.
My inner voice rarely tells me something that I don't ultimately agree with.
Many of my friends don't take me that seriously.
It happened, more than once, that I bitterly hated myself.
I am greatly hampered by a lack of energy, will and determination.
There have been circumstances in my life when I made a deal with my own conscience.
Sometimes I don't understand myself well.
Sometimes it is excruciatingly painful for me to communicate with myself.
I think I could easily find it mutual language with any reasonable and knowledgeable person.
If I treat anyone with reproach, it is first of all towards myself.
Sometimes I doubt whether it is possible to truly love me.
Often my arguments with myself are cut short by the thought that things won’t turn out the way I decided.
My attitude towards myself can be called friendly.
There are hardly people who don't like me.
I often make fun of myself, not without mockery.
If my other “I” existed, then for me it would be a rather boring communication partner.
It seems to me that I have developed enough as a person, and therefore I do not spend much effort on becoming different in some way.
Overall, I'm happy with who I am.
Unfortunately, too many people do not share my views on life.
I can fully say that I respect myself.
I think that I have a smart and reliable advisor in myself.
I quite often make myself feel irritated.
I often, but rather unsuccessfully, try to change something in myself.
I think that my personality is much more interesting and richer than it might seem at first glance.
My advantages completely outweigh my shortcomings.
I rarely remain misunderstood about what is most important to me.
I think that others generally rate me quite highly.
What happens to me is the work of my own hands.
If I argue with myself, I am always sure that I will find the only correct solution.
When troubles happen to me, as a rule, I say: “Serves you right.”
I don't think I'm spiritually interesting enough to be attractive to many people.
I often have doubts: am I really what I think I am?
I am incapable of betrayal even in my thoughts.
Most often I think of myself with friendly irony.
It seems to me that few people would think badly of me.
I am sure that you can rely on me in the most important matters.
I can say that overall I am in control of my destiny.
I never pass off other people's thoughts that I like as my own.
No matter how I may appear to others, I know that deep down I am better than most others.
I would like to remain as I am.
I always welcome criticism if it is justified and fair.
It seems to me that if there were more people like me, life would change for the better.
My opinion has sufficient weight in the eyes of others.
Something is preventing me from truly understanding myself.
There is a lot about me that hardly evokes sympathy.
In difficult circumstances, I usually do not wait for problems to resolve themselves.
Sometimes I try to pretend I'm not who I am.
It is quite natural to be indulgent towards your own weaknesses.
I became convinced that deep penetration into oneself is an unpleasant and rather risky activity.
I never get irritated or angry without any particular reason.
I have moments when I realized that there is something to despise me for.
I often feel like I have little influence over what happens to me.
It is the richness and depth of my inner world and determine my worth as a person.
Long arguments with myself often leave a bitter aftertaste in my soul rather than bring relief.
I think that communicating with me gives people sincere pleasure.
To be honest, sometimes I can be very unpleasant.
You can say that I like myself.
I am a reliable person.
The fulfillment of my desires depends little on luck.
My inner “I” is always interesting to me.
It’s very easy for me to convince myself not to get upset over trifles.
People close to me tend to underestimate me.
I often have moments in my life when I am disgusted with myself.
It seems to me that I still don’t know how to be truly angry with myself.
I became convinced that it was better not to count on me in serious matters.
Sometimes I think I'm kind of strange.
I am not inclined to give in to difficulties.
My own “I” does not seem to me to be something worthy of deep attention.
I think that by thinking deeply about my internal problems, I have learned to understand myself much better.
I doubt that I inspire sympathy among most people around me.
I have happened to do things that can hardly be justified.
Somewhere deep down I consider myself a weakling.
If I sincerely accuse myself of something, then, as a rule, the accusatory fuse does not last long.
My character, whatever it may be, suits me quite well.
I can fully imagine what awaits me ahead.
Sometimes it is difficult for me to find a common language with my inner self.
My thoughts about myself mostly boil down to blaming myself.
I would not like to change much, even for the better, because every change is the loss of some dear part of myself.
The result of my actions too often is not what I expected.
There is hardly anything about me that I don’t know.
I still lack a lot to confidently say to myself: “Yes, I have fully matured as a person.”
Both my advantages and my shortcomings coexist quite peacefully in me.
Sometimes I provide “selfless” help to people just to make myself look better.
I have to justify myself to myself too often and unsuccessfully.
Those who don't love me simply don't know what kind of person I am.
Convincing myself of something is not very difficult for me.
I do not lack people who are close and understand me.
It seems to me that few people truly respect me.
If you don't mind the little things, then in general there is nothing to reproach me with.
I created myself the way I am.
Others' opinions of me are quite consistent with my own.
I would really like to change myself in many ways.
I am treated the way I deserve.
I think that my fate will still not turn out the way I would like now.
I am sure that I am in the right place in life.
METHOD FOR DIAGNOSTICS OF SOCIO-PSYCHOLOGICAL ADAPTATION BY C. ROGERS AND R. DIMON
Target: identifying the characteristics of the adaptation period of the individual through the integral indicators “adaptation”, “self-acceptance”, “acceptance of others”, “emotional comfort”, “internality”, “desire for dominance”.
Instructions:
The questionnaire contains statements about a person, his lifestyle: experiences, thoughts, habits, style of behavior. They can always be related to our own way of life.
After reading or listening to the next statement of the questionnaire, try it on with your habits, your lifestyle and evaluate: to what extent this statement can be attributed to you. In order to indicate your answer in the form, select one of the seven rating options, numbered from “0” to “6”, that you think is appropriate:
– “0” – this does not apply to me at all;
– “1” – this is not typical for me in most cases;
– “2” – I doubt that this can be attributed to me;
– “3” – I don’t dare to attribute this to myself;
– “4” – it looks like me, but I’m not sure;
– “5” – that sounds like me;
– “6” is definitely about me.
Mark the answer option you have chosen on the answer form in the cell corresponding to the serial number of the statement.
SPA QUESTIONNAIRE
1. Feels awkward when starting a conversation with someone.2. There is no desire to open up to others.
3. Loves competition, competition, and struggle in everything.
4. Places high demands on himself.
5. Often scolds himself for what he has done.
6. Often feels humiliated.
7. Doubts that he can like anyone of the opposite sex.
8. Always keeps his promises
9. Warm, kind relationships with others.
10. A reserved, reserved person; stays a little away from everyone.
11. Blames himself for his failures.
12. A responsible person; you can rely on him.
13. Feels that he is unable to change anything, all efforts are in vain.
14. Looks at many things through the eyes of his peers.
15. Generally accepts the rules and requirements that must be followed.
16. Your own beliefs and rules are not enough.
17. Likes to dream - sometimes right in broad daylight. It is difficult to return from dreams to reality.
18. Always ready to defend and even attack: “gets stuck” on feelings of grievances, mentally going through methods of revenge.
19. Knows how to control himself and his own actions, force himself, allow himself; self-control is not a problem for him.
20. The mood often deteriorates: despondency and blues set in.
21. Doesn’t care about anything that concerns others: focused on oneself; busy with myself.
22. As a rule, he likes people.
23. He is not shy about his feelings and expresses them openly.
24. Among a large crowd of people it can be a little lonely.
25. I feel very uneasy now. I want to drop everything and hide somewhere.
26. Usually gets along well with others.
27. The most difficult thing is to fight with yourself.
28. The undeserved friendly attitude of others is alarming.
29. An optimist at heart, he believes in the best.
30. An inflexible, stubborn person; These people are called difficult.
31. Is critical of people and judges them if he thinks they deserve it.
32. Usually he feels not like a leader, but a follower: he does not always manage to think and act independently.
33. Most of those who know him treat him well and love him.
34. Sometimes there are thoughts that you would not like to share with anyone.
35. A person with an attractive appearance.
36. Feels helpless, needs someone to be there.
37. Having made a decision, follows it.
38. Seemingly accepts independent decisions, cannot free himself from the influence of other people.
39. Feels guilty, even when there seems to be nothing to blame yourself for.
40. Feels hostility to what surrounds him.
41. I'm happy with everything.
42. Unsettled: unable to pull himself together, pull himself together, or organize himself.
43. Feels lethargic; everything that previously worried suddenly became indifferent.
44. Balanced, calm.
45. When angry, he often loses his temper.
46. Often feels offended.
47. A person is impetuous, impatient, hot-tempered: lacks restraint.
48. Sometimes he gossips.
49. Doesn’t really trust his feelings: they sometimes let him down.
50. It's quite difficult to be yourself.
51. Reason comes first, not feeling, think before doing anything.
52. He interprets what happens to him in his own way, is capable of inventing unnecessary things... In a word, he is not of this world.
53. A person is tolerant of people and accepts everyone as they are.
54. Tries not to think about his problems.
55. Considers himself an interesting person – attractive as a person, noticeable.
56. A shy person, easily embarrassed.
57. You definitely need to remind and push in order to complete the task.
58. In his soul he feels superior to others.
59. There is nothing in which to express oneself, to show one’s individuality, one’s Self.
60. Afraid of what others will think of him.
61. Ambitious, not indifferent to success, praise: in what is important to him, he tries to be among the best.
62. A person who at the moment has many things worthy of contempt,
63. An active, energetic person, full of initiatives.
64. Gives in to difficulties and situations that threaten complications.
65. He simply doesn’t value himself enough.
66. He is a leader by nature and knows how to influence others.
67. Treats himself generally well.
68. A persistent, assertive person; It is always important for him to insist on his own.
69. Does not like it when relations with someone deteriorate, especially if disagreements threaten to become obvious.
70. He cannot make a decision for a long time, and then doubts its correctness.
71. He is at a loss, everything is confused, everything is mixed up for him.
72. Satisfied with myself.
73. Unlucky.
74. A person who is pleasant and congenial.
75. He may not have a very pretty face, but he may like him as a person, as a person.
76. Despises people of the opposite sex and does not associate with them.
77. When you need to do something, fear sets in: what if I can’t cope, what if it doesn’t work out.
78. It’s easy, calm at heart, there is nothing that would greatly disturb you.
79. Knows how to work hard.
80. Feels that he is growing, maturing: himself and his attitude towards the world around him are changing.
81. It happens that he talks about something he doesn’t understand at all.
82. Always speaks only the truth.
83. Anxious, worried, tense.
84. To force him to do something, you need to really insist, and then he will give in.
85. Feels unsure of himself.
86. Circumstances often force you to defend yourself, make excuses and justify your actions.
87. A person is compliant, pliable, soft in relationships with others.
88. A smart person, he likes to think.
89. Sometimes he likes to brag.
90. Makes decisions and immediately changes them; he despises himself for his lack of will, but cannot do anything about himself.
91. Tries to rely on his own strengths and does not count on anyone’s help.
92. Never late.
93. Experiences a feeling of constraint, internal lack of freedom.
94. Stands out among others.
95. Not a very reliable friend, you can’t rely on everything.
96. Everything is clear about himself, he understands himself well.
97. Sociable, open person; gets along with people easily.
98. Strengths and abilities are fully consistent with the tasks that have to be solved; can handle everything.
99. Does not value himself: no one takes him seriously; at best, they are condescending towards him, they simply tolerate him.
100. Worries that people of the opposite sex are too much on her mind.
101. Considers all his habits to be good.
Definition of destructive attitudes in interpersonal relationships V.V. Boyko
Target: identification of destructive attitudes in the interpersonal relationships of the subjects.Instructions. You need to read each of the statements below and answer “yes” or “no”, expressing agreement or disagreement with them. We recommend using a sheet of paper on which the question number and your answer are recorded; then refer to your entry as we further explain. Be careful and sincere.
Questionnaire
My principle in relationships with people is: trust, but verify.
It is better to think badly about a person and make a mistake than the other way around (think well and make a mistake).
High-ranking officials, as a rule, are tricksters and cunning.
Modern youth have forgotten how to experience a deep feeling of love.
Over the years, I became more secretive because I often had to pay for my gullibility.
In almost any team there is envy or bullying.
Most people lack compassion for others.
Most workers in enterprises and institutions try to get their hands on everything that is bad.
Most teenagers today are worse educated than ever before.
I have often met cynical people in my life.
It happens like this: you do good to people, and then you regret it, because they pay with ingratitude.
Good must be with fists.
With our people it is possible to build a happy society in the near future.
You see stupid people around you more often than smart ones.
Most people with whom you do business pretend to be decent, but in essence they are different.
I am a very trusting person.
Those who believe that we should be more afraid of people rather than animals are right.
Mercy in our society will remain an illusion in the near future.
Our reality makes a person standard, faceless.
Good manners in my work environment is a rare quality.
I almost always stop to give a passerby a token for a pay phone in exchange for money.
Most people are willing to commit immoral acts for the sake of personal interests.
People tend to be uninitiative at work.
Most older people show their bitterness to everyone.
Most people at work love to gossip about each other.
Data processing and interpretation
Veiled cruelty in relation to people, in judgments about them
Please return to the questions you answered at the very beginning of the section. The following answer options indicate veiled cruelty in relations with people (the number of points awarded for the corresponding option is indicated in brackets): 1 – yes (3); 6 – yes (3); 11 – yes (7), 16 – no (3); 21 – no (4).You can score a maximum of 20 points. The more points earned, the more clearly expressed is the veiled cruelty towards people.
Open cruelty towards people
The personality does not hide or soften his negative assessments and experiences about the majority of those around him: the conclusions about them are sharp, unambiguous and made, perhaps forever. You can judge open cruelty by the following questions from the above questionnaire: 2 – yes (9); 7 – yes (8); 12 – yes (10); 17 – yes (10); 22 – yes (8).Justified negativism in judgments about people
It is expressed in objectively determined negative conclusions about certain types of people and certain aspects of interaction.Justified negativism is found in the following questions and answer options: 3 – yes (1); 8 – yes (1); 13 – no (1); 18 – yes (1); 23 – yes (1). The maximum number of points is 5; scoring them is not considered shameful. However, a special type of respondents is noteworthy. They demonstrate very pronounced cruelty - veiled or open, or both at once, but at the same time it is as if they are wearing rose-colored glasses: they do not notice what causes justified negativism.
Grumbling, that is, the tendency to make unfounded generalizations of negative facts in the field of relationships with partners and in observing social reality
The presence of such a component in a negative attitude is indicated by next questions from the mentioned questionnaire: 4 – yes (2); 9 – yes (2); 14 – yes (2); 19 – yes (2); 24 – yes (2). The maximum number of points is 10.
Negative personal experiences with others
This component of the attitude shows to what extent you are lucky in life to have your closest circle of acquaintances and partners in joint activities (in previous indicators, rather general situations were assessed). About the negative personal experience contacts are indicated by questions: 5 – yes (5); 10 – yes (5); 15 – yes (5); 20 – yes (4); 25 – yes (1). The maximum possible number of points is 20.Indicators of negative communication attitudes
| Indicators | Maximum points | Points you received | Percentage of maximum points |
| Veiled cruelty | 20 | ||
| Open Rigidity | 45 | ||
| Justified negativism | 5 | ||
| Grumbling | 10 | ||
| Negative communication experience | 20 | ||
| Total: | 100 |
Affiliation Questionnaire by A. Mehrabian
Affiliation refers to a person’s need to establish, maintain and strengthen good relationships with people. An individual who has this need not only constantly strives for people and experiences satisfaction from emotionally positive communication with them, but sees human relationships as one of the main meanings of life. Sometimes this need becomes so significant for a person that it outweighs the others.Before starting the study, subjects undergoing testing using this method receive instructions with the following content:
“You are offered several dozen judgments, after reading which you need to express the degree of your agreement with each of these judgments using the following scale:
+3 – completely agree,
+2 – I agree,
+1 – I rather agree than disagree,
0 – neither yes nor no,
-1 – rather disagree than agree,
-2 – I don’t agree,
-3 – completely disagree.
The proposed questionnaire assesses two motivational tendencies that are functionally interrelated and correlated with the need for affiliation: the desire for people and the fear of being rejected. Accordingly, subjects are offered two different questionnaires to answer, one of which is designed to assess the first motivational tendency, and the other – the second.
Test scale for assessing the strength of desire for people
Fear of Rejection Test Scale
I am embarrassed to go into an unfamiliar company.
If I don't like the party, I still don't leave first.
I would be very offended if my close friend began to contradict me in front of strangers.
I try to communicate less with people of a critical mindset.
I usually get along easily with strangers.
I will not refuse to go on a visit because there will be people there who don’t like me.
When two of my friends argue, I prefer not to interfere in their argument, even if I disagree with one of them.
If I ask someone to go with me and he refuses, then I will hesitate to ask him again.
I am careful in expressing my opinion until I know the person well.
If during a conversation I did not understand something, I would rather remain silent than interrupt the speaker and ask him to repeat what was said.
I openly criticize people and expect the same from them.
I have a hard time saying no to people.
I can still enjoy a party even if I feel like I'm not dressed for the occasion.
I am sensitive to criticism addressed to me.
If someone doesn't like me, I try to avoid that person.
I don't hesitate to ask people for help.
I rarely contradict people for fear of offending them.
I often feel like strangers look at me critically.
Whenever I have to go into an unfamiliar company, I prefer to take a friend with me.
I often say what I think, even if it is unpleasant to the interlocutor.
I easily get used to a new team.
At times I get the feeling that no one needs me.
I worry for a long time if a stranger speaks unflatteringly about me.
I never feel lonely in company.
I am very easily offended, even if it is not noticeable from the outside.
After meeting a new person, I usually care little whether I behaved correctly.
When I need to ask an official for something, I almost always expect that they will refuse me.
When I need to ask the seller to show me something I like, I feel awkward.
If I'm unhappy with how someone I know is behaving, I usually point it out to him directly.
If I sit in public transport, it seems to me that people look at me reproachfully.
When I find myself in unfamiliar company, I tend to join the conversation rather than remain on the sidelines.
I am embarrassed to ask for the return of a book or any other thing borrowed from me.
Evaluation of results
For each of the above scales, the sum of points received by the subject is determined separately. To do this, use the key and conversion rating scales presented below.Key to the scale " desire for people": +1, +2, -3, -4, +5, -6, +7, -8, -9, -10, -11, +12, -13, +14, +15, -16, +17, -18, -19, +20, -21, +22, -23, -24, -25, +26, -27, -28, -29, +30.
Key to the scale " fear of being rejected": +1, +2, +3, +4, -5, -6, +7, +8, +9, +10, -11, +12, -13, +14, +15, -16, +17, +18, +19, -20, -21, +22, +23, -24, +25, -26, +27, +28, -29, +30, -31, +32.
The following procedure is used to determine the total score for each scale. Questionnaire items marked with “+” signs in the key are assigned points in accordance with the following transfer scale, where the numerator represents the assessments given by the subjects to the corresponding judgments, and the denominator represents the scores that these scale items should ultimately receive, and which are summed up:
Points are calculated according to the following scheme:
“very often” – 4 points,
“often” – 3,
“rarely” – 2,
“never” – 0.
0-25 points indicate a high level of self-esteem, at which a person, as a rule, is confident in himself, reacts correctly to the comments of others and rarely doubts the necessity of his actions.
26-45 points are an indicator of the average level of self-esteem; a person rarely suffers from an inferiority complex, and only from time to time tries to adapt to the opinions of other people.
46-128 points – the level of self-esteem is low, the person is sensitive to critical remarks, and is not confident in himself.
Purpose of the test: diagnostics of the depth of the experience of loneliness.
Test instructions: you are offered 12 questions and 4 possible answers to them. Choose the one that best matches your self-image.
| № | Questions | Answer options | |||
| Always | often | Sometimes | never | ||
| 1 | Does it happen that you do not find understanding with your loved ones (friends)? | ||||
| 2 | Do you have the idea that no one really needs you? | ||||
| 3 | Do you ever have a feeling of being abandoned, abandoned in the world? | ||||
| 4 | Do you lack friendly communication? | ||||
| 5 | Do you ever have a feeling of acute longing for something irretrievably gone, lost forever? | ||||
| 6 | Do you feel overwhelmed by superficial social contacts that do not provide the opportunity for true human interaction? | ||||
| 7 | Do you have a feeling of your own dependence on other people? | ||||
| 8 | Are you now capable of truly empathizing with another person’s grief? | ||||
| 9 | Can you express your empathy, understanding, sympathy to a person? | ||||
| 10 | Does it happen that the success or luck of another person makes you feel disadvantaged, regretful about your own failures? | ||||
| 11 | Do you demonstrate your independence in solving difficult life situations? | ||||
| 12 | Do you feel you have a sufficient reserve of capabilities to independently solve life’s problems? | ||||
Processing and interpretation of test results
This questionnaire is quite simple to process. The following points are assigned to the subject’s answers: always – 4, often – 3, sometimes – 2, never – 1.
The key to measuring loneliness is:
- 12-16 points – the person is not experiencing loneliness now;
- 17-27 points – shallow experience of possible loneliness;
- 28-38 – deep experience of actual loneliness;
- 39-48 – a very deep experience of loneliness, immersion in this state.
Korchagina S.G. Psychology of loneliness: a textbook. – M.: MPSI, 2008.
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